- 1 Feeling grief, sadness or the inability to progress?
- 2 When would we need to seek grief therapy?
- 3 More information on Grief:
Feeling grief, sadness or the inability to progress?
Feeling down, experiencing sadness or depression is normal in today’s society. Experiencing such feelings is natural, and depending on the severity emotions may run their course, in their own time.
Experiencing an exceptional sense of sadness, coping with grief, coping with loss or struggling to manage one’s life, feeling isolated, is also natural. Using this type of counselling is a recommended solution to fixing your sorrow, sadness and anxiety problems.
In fact, it can be so natural it severely conflicts with society’s general expectations of how we should be feeling, as opposed to just feeling what we feel and feel ok with it!
People are taught, directly and indirectly (via social media, advertising and following others opinions, etc.) i.f we are not positive, smiling and projecting behaviour that’s ‘all good’, we are not worthy of acceptance. Which is wrong, potentially very harmful and can isolate the individual more than their already down/depressive state allows.
Unfortunately, this cycle has been established and has become the norm for many years. To be positive, smile, happy, have fun, be bright, continuously is normal, and if we are the opposite, something is wrong with us.
Alternatively, to hide this, taking antidepressants, drinking alcohol and drug use becomes the ‘I am okay’ mask, when in fact, the wounds may be getting bigger in the background which will turn it into a more complicated grief.
It is better to have sessions in bereavement counselling to get some ideas on how to see these problems from a different point of view.
Is it incredibly ‘ok’ to feel negative feelings like grief and sadness?
This is the first step for any individual to know they are accepted as opposed to rejected in life. Healing pain, deep wounds, multiple stresses, etc. may take weeks, months, or years to resolve, and that is ok, why? Because we are all different, with different experiences and different pain levels. What suits one may not suit the other and vice versa.
As a counsellor one of my mantras is: ‘however long it takes, there is no rush’. As much as society is ‘so busy’ and in a rush, does not mean one has to conform and follow the leader. The individual (YOU) is leader, of your life:)
But we need to apply a positive additude to all things we do to succeed and stay healthy.
Divine Spark helps those to deal with disturbing and upsetting situations.
I feel very strongly towards the underlying elements of the human heart. Which can be complex, suffering in silence, without expression, without a solution or solutions, suffering alone behind closed doors can ultimately lead to even more problems, and at worst, a predicament.
I am primarily a ‘real people person’. I find people and individual personalities fascinating. In that sense, I could be termed as an emotional heart surgeon. I like to dig deep to the cause of the problem with nurturing and care. I abhor the saying ‘a band-aid for a bullet wound’.
When would we need to seek grief therapy?
Grief therapy comes to be needed when a person is so disabled by their despair, driven by anger; and, so overwhelmed by their loss that their regular coping processes are handicapped or closed down. Loss Grief therapy supports the expression of feeling and also thought of the loss, including feeling depressed, distressed, angry, lonesome, guilty, relieved, isolated, confused, or numb. Talking to children about these problems can also become difficult.
It includes believing artistically concerning the obstacles that adhere to loss as well as dealing with simultaneous modifications in their lives.
Often people feel topsy-turvy, tired, have difficulty focusing, rest badly as well as have vibrant dreams, as well as they might experience adjustment in appetite. These as well are attended to in therapy.
Learn the different grief stages and how to deal with them. To get bereavement support.
Grief therapy promotes the procedure of resolution in all-natural responses to loss.
It is common for reaction to losses to have overwhelmed an individual’s coping capability. There are important sources on the internet covering grief loss therapy such as the Despair Therapy Resource Guide from a psychologist in the New York City State Workplace of Mental Wellness.
Grief support may be required when an individual endures sorrow, as an example an intrusive and regular worry about a loved one whose death is imminent or most likely. Mourning likewise takes place when a loved one has an incurable health problem.
This can handicap that person’s ability to remain positive while simultaneously keep, releasing, and drawing closer to the passing away relative.
Joanne Jozefowski in 1999 via The Phoenix metro Sensation: Rising from the Ashes of Despair summarises five stages to reconstruct a shattered life.
Five stages that must be understood
|Effect||Shock, denial, anxiousness, fear, and panic.|
|Mayhem||complication, shock, actions out of control, irrational thoughts and also feelings, really feeling anguish, really feeling defenceless, lose track of time, difficulty sleeping and also eating, compulsive focus on the loved one as well as their belongings, misery from visualising their physical damage, smashed ideas.|
|Adjusting||bringing order back into every day life while you continue to grieve: care for basic demands (individual grooming, buying, cooking, cleansing, paying expenses), learn how to live without the loved one, accept assistance, concentrate on assisting kids cope, get in touch with various other mourning family members for shared assistance, take control of grieving so that sorrow does not control you, slowly approve the brand-new reality.|
|Stability||obtaining security as well as routines: reestablish a life that works all right, appreciate enjoyable tasks with relative and also great times with close friends, do efficient jobs, select a positive new direction in life while recognizing the past, find out the best ways to take care of people that ask questions concerning exactly what you’ve been through.|
|Change||Rethinking your function in life as well as the basis for your identity; searching for suggestion in tragic, purposeless loss; permitting yourself to have both excruciating as well as positive feelings about your loss and also learn to select which feelings you focus on; enabling on your own to discover that your battle has actually led you to develop a more powerful better variation of yourself ; learning how you can talk with others concerning your brave healing trip without exposing them to your discomfort; becoming encouraging of others trying to deal with their losses.|
More information on Grief:
Five identities of grievers
Berger identifies five methods of the grieving process, as exhibited by:
|Wanderers||Nomads have not yet resolved their pain and do not appear to recognise the loss that has affected their lives.|
|Memorialists||This identification is devoted to maintaining the memory of the loved one that they have lost.|
|Normalizers||This identity is dedicated to re-creating a sense of family members and also neighbourhood.|
|Activists||This identity concentrates on aiding other people who are managing the same disease or with the very same concerns that caused their loved one’s fatality.|
|Seekers||This identity will take on spiritual, philosophical, or spiritual ideas to produce meaning in their lives.|
Some scenarios that contribute to these problems:
- Job loss
- Death of an animal
- Shift in monetary security
- Fatality of an individual
- Moving home
- Life not ending up how we had visualized
- Partnership collapse
- Removing institutions
- Substantial life changes
- Lost my mum
- Lost my dad
- Love one’s terminal illness
- Coping with other people’s problems
- Children losing there loved ones
- Losing a parent
- Feeling sad
- Manic depression
- Suicidal thoughts
- Death of a loved one
Indications to watch out for:
- Feeling unfortunate or down, often crying and also experiencing state of mind swings
- Clinical depression
- Feeling shocked or pins and needles
- Feeling alleviation and despair
- Experiencing disorientation
- Feeling lonely or taking out socially
- Suffering from lapse of memory
- Feeling defenseless
- Boosted rage, frustration and complication
- The sense of going ‘crazy’.
- Raised smoking, alcohol consumption or drug use.
- Thinking about harming yourself or passing away.
- Discovering it hard to focus.
- Sleeping troubles.
- Eating tiny amounts or nothing at all.
- Experiencing physical health issues and fatigue.
- Panic Attacks
If you are experiencing feelings of sadness, depression, grief, emotional isolation/trauma, loneliness, loss, whatever combination of blues, or others keep us informed.
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